By Edie Billhimer
You may have never dreamed of using a male masturbator with your partner. After all, most people have the preconceived notion that masturbators are strictly for solo use. However, we use vibrators, clitoral stimulators and other sex toys together. Therefore, why not use a male masturbator together?
The fact is, using this type of sex toy with your partner can be extremely sexy and exciting. That’s why I have gathered 10 tips for using a male masturbator with your partner. Plus, I will include ideas, tricks and positions for all couples, as well as gay couples exclusively.
Finally, I will present you with a list for types of male masturbators, so you can choose the right one for you and your partner.
Male Masturbator Tips for All Couples
Using a male masturbator on your partner can be such a turn on. That’s because you will have full control over the speeds, settings and ultimately, their climax. Additionally, male masturbators can help in situations when you’re not in the mood, or you don’t enjoy giving oral sex.
So, let’s take a look at the first 5 tips on how to use a male masturbator with your partner, all couples’ edition.
Just for Him
Sometimes making him the center of attention is just what he needs. After all, who doesn’t want to be spoiled and the prime focus in the bedroom?! Hence, for this tip, have him lay across the bed in a comfy position. Then, slowly work your way down his body with caresses, kisses, and some light fingernail action.
If he’s into that.
See, we all need and want a bit of foreplay before getting down to the nitty gritty. Yes, even men!
So, once he’s up and ready to go, slather his penis in a slippery, water-based lubricant, and slide on a male masturbator. Now, this can be a simple sleeve or pocket pussy, or an automatic masturbator. It’s entirely up to you and what your partner enjoys.
The point is being in full control over his excitement and orgasm. Not only that, doing something so intimate for your partner can be extremely arousing for you, as well as learning more about what your partner likes. Therefore, it’s a win-win all around.
Tied Up and Teased
For those of you who enjoy the spicier side of sex, Tied Up and Teased is the perfect way to add a little BDSM, while giving him that all-about-him treatment. First, find a chair to which you can tie him, dining chairs work well for this. Or instead, try a nice collar and cuff set to keep his hands secure and away from what you’re doing. Next, give him some personalized teasing and foreplay to prepare for the big event.
Then, using a water-based lubricant, be sure he’s nice and slippery in all the right places. Besides, this is another sensual aspect of foreplay. Then, take his favorite male masturbator, slide it onto his erect penis, and switch it on. From there, play with the settings, slowing down, and speeding up, until he’s ready to explode.
Oral Sex and a Male Masturbator
If he’s the type of guy who enjoys giving you oral attention, be sure he’s having some fun at the same time by handing him a male masturbator. That way, he can take pleasure in some amazing stimulation while he’s stimulating you. Best of all, the more excited he gets, the more aggressive he will be on your parts. Then, who knows, you may enjoy one of those rare, mutual Os.
However, if you prefer the 69 position, you can give him the thrill of an automatic masturbator instead of oral. Also, if you want to share the love with some mutual oral, but you happen to have a sensitive gag reflex, try this super-secret tip. First, for this you’ll need a masturbation sleeve or other open-ended male masturbator.
Next, make sure he’s wet and ready, by licking or sucking, and slide the sleeve over his penis. Or, you can use a flavored lubricant for delicious oral delight and slippery fun. Then, grip the sleeve and stroke while performing oral on the tip of his penis. What this does is gives him the feel of deep-throating, while you are avoiding that dreaded gag reflex.
In the end, no matter which oral escapade you choose to embark upon, using a male masturbator adds newness and excitement like you’ve he’s never experienced before.
Netflix and Thrill
We’ve all heard of Netflix and chill, especially during cuffing season. However, Netflix and Thrill brings a whole new sexy dynamic to watching your favorite shows. First, position yourself longways on the sofa or in bed. Next, spread your legs so your partner can sit between them and lean against you.
This gives your access to his neck, ears and shoulders, where you can kiss and lick until he realizes there’s more to this than watching Star Wars. Once he’s ready for more than making out, lube up his penis and surprise him with an automatic male masturbator.
Next, put your arms around his lower waist, hang on to the toy and play with the different settings until he’s moaning and groaning so loud, you can’t hear the TV. Afterward, he may want to return the favor!
Wet ‘N’ Wild
There are few things as sensual as a hot, steamy shower together, slathering one another with soap. Well, that is until you add a waterproof automatic male masturbator into the mix! Best of all, he’s already wet and slippery with soap, as well as being aroused from rubbing against your naked body.
First, be sure he’s leaning against the wall so he doesn’t slip! The last thing you need is an embarrassing trip to the ER.
Then slide the masturbator on him and let the stroking begin. Be sure and pay attention to his muscles tensing, his deeper breathing, and possibly his moaning. That way, you’ll know exactly when to power-stroke him into mind-blowing orgasmic bliss!
Male Masturbator Tips for Male Couples
Male couples have the added benefit of enjoying a male masturbator and penetration at the same time. That way, you both receive incredible and thrilling pleasure together. So, whether you’re a bottom, a top, or both, using a male masturbator on your partner will add a dimension to your love-making that’s new and exciting.
The Reverse Cowboy with a Twist
This tip for using a male masturbator with your partner gives both of you the satisfaction of penetration, while your partner receives the stroking, rotating, and vibration of the toy. First, find yourselves your favorite comfy arm chair. Then the bottom takes a seat with the top on their lap.
Most importantly, don’t forget the sensual foreplay, so you’re both in the mood for some exciting sex!
Next, slide the masturbator around the top’s penis, and take full control of their arousal. Then your partner is able to hold onto the chair arms and give you the lap grind of your dreams! When it’s all said and done, sharing a mutual climax is new, thrilling, and oh-so fulfilling.
Brokeback Cowboy
As much fun as the Reverse Cowboy will be, stretch out across the bed, grab your favorite thrusting or rotating male masturbator and try out the Brokeback Cowboy. To begin, foreplay should be at the forefront, as well all desire that sexual warm-up. Then, follow these instructions. First, the cowboy straddles the top’s lap area and slides onto his penis.
Then, the top lubes up the cowboy and slips the male masturbator onto his penis. Now, if this is an automatic male masturbator, all you have to do is press the buttons, select the speed, and watch them lose their mind with pleasure.
However, it might be a little difficult to pay attention and hold onto that toy since you are getting as much stimulation as they are. But how much fun will it be to see who hits their climax first?!
The Jack Knife
This way of using a masturbator with your partner is perfect for those couples who happen to be close in height. Otherwise, you may need to adjust the height of the shorter partner. Now, to pull this one off, one partner stands in front of the other, and bends at the waist. Then, the person behind can penetrate them, if they choose.
Next, the top, puts their arms around their partner’s waist and slides the masturbator onto their penis. Now, this position would be perfect for a stroker that features handles on each side, but any one you can grip will do. Finally, using the leverage from the masturbator, you can thrust slowly into your partner while the toy gives them all sorts of sucking, stoking, and vibrating pleasure.
Dual Doggy
This male masturbator tip is exactly what it sounds like, getting it on the doggy position while using the toy on your partner. Now, this one would probably best benefit from using an automatic stoker. That way, you can easily adjust the speeds and patterns by the click of a button.
To begin, lube up the bottom’s penis, slide on the stroker, and switch it on. Then, either they can lay chest down and hold it themselves, or you can hold the masturbator while penetrating them from behind.
Either way, this position allows for both partners to receive the ultimate in penis pleasure at the same time, no third person required!
Face Time
The final way for using a male masturbator on your partner is called Face Time. And this tip is perfect for letting your partner be the center of attention. First, be sure you are prepared with a good, water-based lube. Then face one another either sitting on the bed, or surrounded by pillows and blankets on the floor.
Next, some sensual foreplay is definitely in order! Therefore, take some time to look deeply into your partner’s eyes and kiss them, caress them, and massage them from head to toe. While concentrating on their arousal, lube up their penis and slip on your favorite male masturbator. Then, play with all of the exciting settings to tease them until they can’t take it anymore!
Finally, if your toy happens to have a turbo button, now’s the time to give it a click and send your partner to the moon! However, if you’ve never heard of an automatic male masturbator with a turbo setting, read on and learn about the different types of automatic strokers and all of the high-tech, incredible features.
Types of Male Masturbators to Use on Your Partner
Male masturbators come in all shapes and sizes as well as having all sorts of features that mimic oral sex and hand jobs. Additionally, some rotate, vibrate, and even sync to adult content! And if you don’t already own one that you can use with your partner, what are you waiting for? Below you’ll find a sampling of each type of boy toy, so you can decide which types you need to own.
The Pocket Pussy
The pocket pussy toy is the OG of all male masturbators and usually the first one most men try. For example, the Realistic 3D Texture Double Channel Pocket Pussy is made from soft, skin like TPE, and features two openings that can be accessed. These openings are realistically textured for amazing stimulation with every stoke.
Additionally, it has the following features:
- Realistic anal and vaginal texture
- Tightness is adjusted by squeezing
- Fits most penis lengths and girths
- Soft and stretchy
- Perfect for using on your partner
- Easy to clean up
The Open-Ended Male Masturbator
The open-ended male masturbator is just the right toy to use on your partner, especially when giving them oral sex. Pictured is the New 2 in 1 Vibrating Open-Ended Male Masturbation and Penis Trainer. This one is small, discreet and the perfect toy for solo time or using with your partner. Plus, this one features the following:
- Soft, warming TPE
- Dual ends for a different feel
- Textured inside for excellent stimulation
- Dust caps to keep the toy clean
- Dual vibrators on each side
- 10 levels of vibration
- Rechargeable
- Removable for easy cleaning
The Basic Close-Ended Stroker
The close-ended male masturbator takes a pocket pussy and elevates it into the 21st century. That’s because you get all of the softness, texture and squeezability of the pocket pussy, but with a sleek, discreet case and added vibrations. For instance, the Tino App Control Oral vibration and squeeze Male Masturbator, is all that and more!
Check out these details and functions:
- Soft, textured TPE sleeve inside
- Black, sleek case with end cover for storage and discretion
- 4 squeeze modes to increase tightness
- 9 levels of vibration
- Easy to use buttons
- Rechargeable
- Sleeve removes for easy cleaning
- Free app for extended features and play
- Your partner can control it too
Rotating Automatic Male Masturbator
Rotating male masturbators give you a sensation you can’t really get from a human partner! And this toy gives you all that and vibration too! Plus, it’s incredibly easy to use on your partner. Meet the Bidirectional Rotation Vibrating Blowjob Masturbator! Not only does it rotate, but it does so in both directions.
In addition, this unique looking rotating male masturbator offers you all of these features too:
- Transparent, textured TPE sleeve
- Texture included on the end for glans stimulation
- Unique shape
- Easy to grip handle makes it perfect for using on your partner
- 5 bidirectional speeds
- 10 levels of vibration
- Sleeve removes for easy cleaning.
- Easy to access buttons
- Rechargeable
- 50 5-star reviews
Blow Job Masturbator
Blow job or sucking male masturbators offer suction and texture to mimic the feel of oral sex. And the Vacuum Suction Vibration Blow Job Simulator is perfect for that feel and is easy to use with your partner. The interior is made from transparent TPE which warms up the more it’s used. Plus, it features a large button on top that you squeeze to increase the tightness and suction.
In addition, your partner will enjoy these fun features:
- 2 motors for immersive vibrations
- 10 levels of vibration
- 4 suction modes
- Quick suction release button
- Sleek outer case with dust cover end cap
- Easily accessible buttons
- Rechargeable
- Disassembles for easy cleaning
The Popular Thrusting Male Masturbator
Thrusting male masturbators are designed to feel the most like manual stroking. However, the Vibrating and Thrusting Modes Men Masturbators with LCD Display offers so much that it is 5-star rated with over 70 reviews. Plus, it’s incredibly easy to handle, making it the perfect male masturbator to use with your partner.
This is what you’ll get with this amazing product:
- Soft, silicone sleeve
- Textured interior including 2 beaded rings
- 8 thrusting modes
- 8 levels of vibration
- 1-button “storm” for explosive endings
- Digital LCD screen
- End cap for cleanliness
- Removable sleeve for easy cleaning
- Easy-press buttons for full control
Multi-Action Top Tier Masturbator
Last, but not least, using one of these multi-function, top tier, automatic male masturbators with your partner will blow both of your minds! One example is the BLACK KNIGHT Automatic Thrusting & Rotating Male Masturbator. Not only does it have removable handles for the best grip, this thing does nearly everything the above automatic strokers do, and then some.
The Black Knight has the following features:
- Sleek, black case with removable handles
- End cap to keep it dust free
- Suction cup mountable telescopic base for hands-free play
- Textured, silicone sleeve that creates natural suction
- LCD screen for viewing timing, power, settings
- Dual motors (up and down) for powerful thrusting
- 7 thrusting modes
- 7 rotation modes
- 1 click turbo burst mode for explosive endings
- Phone holder
- Free app with synced adult content, long-distance play, and more
A New Way to Play with Your Partner
Ladies aren’t the only ones who should have all the partner fun with toys! In fact, it’s time we all realize that using a male masturbator with our partner is not only acceptable, but encouraged. So, if your partner doesn’t have one lurking in the depths of the closet, it’s time to buy one now!
To top things off, Sohimi offers fast and discreet to-you-door shipping and a full 1-year warranty for operational defects on all of their products. Plus, everything is priced right, so no matter what your budget, Sohimi has you covered!
